Today, July 18, 2017, my husband, Mr. Viking, and I are celebrating 8 years of marriage. It is sometimes hard to believe it was that long ago that I was worried if everything would go smoothly at our wedding.
Remembering our wedding is always a joyous occasion for me. Because even though we had some small issues the day of it was absolutely a perfect day. We got to celebrate our wedding day with our close friends and family. It was truly special and I will remember it always.
In the past 8 years with my husband, I have learned some many things both good and bad. Marriage is hard work no matter what anyone else says. It takes effort and work. While it is hard work it also has some serious perks. One way to look at marriage is that it is a roller coaster. It can be the ride of your life or it can be scary as hell.
So far the past 8 years has been the ride of my life. It has been full of adventures, traveling, moving (oh about 5 times), 2 babies (who aren’t babies anymore), 8 fur babies, and so much more. Of course, there have been arguments, fights, and some serious challenges in there as well. But without the challenges, the good times wouldn’t have been easily as noticeable.
Here are the 8 things I’ve learned the past 8 years of marriage
Compliment Each Other:
It is so important to tell each other that they look handsome or beautiful. A little compliment can go along way and especially help their day to be a bit better. Plus it reminds your significant other that you care about them and you appreciate them.
Touch is Important:
It is okay to embarrass your kids and be lovey-dovey! It adds to your relationship. Hold hands, kiss, snuggle. Do what makes your relationship grow. Whenever my husband and I are in the same room unless the kids are on lap we sit together, hold hands, etc. It is important to both of us.
Make Each Other a Priority:
This one we sometimes have trouble remembering and doing because let’s face it life gets in the way. Between the kids and our jobs and life, in general, we sometimes forget that instead of making our kids the priority we should be making each other our priority. When you finally do it, it will make a difference. Not to mention in the long run the kids will grow up and move out but you will be living with your spouse after that.
Make Each Other Laugh:
My husband is without a doubt my best friend. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my girlfriends but I want my husband there to experience all life has to offer both good and bad. Because we are best friends as well as spouses we make sure that we have a good time and that we make sure to make other laugh.
Forgive and Forget:
This is absolutely a must! Although this is something that I have battled with personally. I have a tendency to hold grudges but it does us no good if I do. Your marriage will have issues if you don’t move past whatever happened. Talk about, lay out your emotions, apologize, forgive and move on.
I know you think date nights… We don’t have the money to go out for a night or pay for a babysitter. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go anywhere. Most nights after the kids go to bed my husband and I curl up and watch a movie or a TV show we love together and each night seems like we are having a date night. So curl up to watch a movie, play a board game, or even go out to dinner once a week.
Communication is a Must:
You have heard it before “communication is the key.” Of course, it is if you don’t hold a meaningful discussion, talk about your feelings, talk about challenges, etc. My husband and I try to discuss everything from small purchases we need for the kids to how our day was. Also in this communication, it is also important to call or text throughout the day to see how your spouse is doing, tell them you love them, it helps them to know you are thinking about them.
Make Memories Together:
Go on adventures together, see the world, or your state, or your city. The adventure doesn’t stop when you say “I do”. Go somewhere new, explore the area around you. Do something fun! These adventures and the memories you make while doing them will forever impact the relationship you have.
Marriage is hard we all know that but it doesn’t always have to be hard. The good times can outweigh the bad and your marriage can and will grow with time.
I know our marriage has grown over the years. While we have had our fair share of challenging times I know that my life is better with my husband in it. Our love has created two amazing children and the memories we have made and continue to make keep me warm at night when my husband isn’t home.
Happy Anniversary Mr. Viking!